Monday, March 24, 2008

Easter at the Curmudgeon home

All five of the kids were home for Easter dinner.

This year there were no extras.

We knew Older Daughter wouldn't bring the Boyfriend: In addition to his graduate studies, he's very active in his church choir. He commuted from Champaign to Indianapolis throughout undergraduate to sing on all the important occasions; we certainly did not expect him to miss that for dinner with us.

But Oldest Son's situation was more... delicate. He apparently still has the Girlfriend he brought to meet us during Christmastime. Indeed, she's now moved to the Chicago area, taking an apartment not far from Oldest Son's.

Naturally, we encouraged Oldest Son to bring the Girlfriend to dinner. "I can?" he asked, and we assured him he could.

"We'll see," he said, and that was all he would say thereafter.

Now what follows is solely my own speculation; it may have no foundation in fact.

Except for the fact that Oldest Son showed up alone.

It could mean Trouble in Paradise. These things happen.

But... I'm thinking... after what happened the first time she visited, Oldest Son may have been reluctant to even extend the invitation.

I gave him the needle throughout the day yesterday: The poor thing, I said, speaking of the Girlfriend, sitting home alone in her studio apartment, a thousand miles away from her own family, eating beans out of a can for Easter dinner....

He flushed, but he did not take us up on our suggestion that he go pick her up even now, nor would he say where she was or why she didn't come. Older Daughter and Younger Daughter confirmed that his Facebook status hadn't changed: According to that, he was still in a relationship.

So: What do you think? Did he even tell her about the invitation?

And, if he didn't, was it wrong of him not to?


TroyBoy said...

My guess is that he did not tell her. Should you be upset at that? Let me answer your question with a question: How many girlfriends did you bring to your house before Long Suffering Spouse? Exactly. :-)

Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said...

i have no idea curmy, shoot my son would be lucky to get a DATE for dinner!

smiles, bee

Jean-Luc Picard said...

Maybe he just wanted to be in a family dinner?

Shelby said...

Mmmmm I dunno. Need more info I think to figure this one out. How long did son stay for your dinner? If he left pretty early, I'd say he went over to see her and they dined alone.

If he hung around your place all day, I'd say either she had other plans or - perhaps, son and girlfried are having issues.

Keep us posted.

Lahdeedah said...

He may have told her, but she may be intimidated by a big family.

He didn't tell her because he's intimidated by his family ha ha.

She was going out partying with friends.

She worked.


He probably didn't tell her.

It's just SUCH a guy thing to do, to not tell her she was invited. AND it probably wasn't wrong, because he was probably thinking if he brought her for a second 'serious' dinner/event/holiday you'd all be recreating "He Went to Jared" commercials....

Patti said...

I don't think he told her she was invited.

Sounds like a shy kind of guy.

The Curmudgeon said...

I'm pretty sure he never asked her either. And, no, he didn't hang around long either -- he stayed a dutiful length of time and took off at the first opportunity.

So maybe he took her to dinner.

And troyboy -- I'm thinking I only ever brought Long Suffering Spouse to a family event before we were married. But Oldest Son brought this girl to the house over Christmas... so the ice was broken, right?

Kacey said...

Never try to figure out your kidlets love lives. It only makes you feel old and out of it!